What I truly find fascinating about beauty in Japan is its cleansing rituals. And, this time, I’m not talking about double cleansing! From resort onsen (natural hot springs), neighborhood sento (public baths), and the modern super sento, these bathing practices offer more than just a way to get clean. They are a means to relax, rejuvenate, and foster a deep sense of natural simplicity. Here’s what I learned about aging and body positivity from Japanese public baths, one soak at a time.
What I Learned About Aging and Body Positivity From Japanese Public Baths
As a mother raising a bicultural daughter in Japan, one of my biggest goals is to teach her to embrace her unique features. These traits might not always fit into the conventional beauty ideals of either culture. Japan, with its emphasis on fair skin and straight black hair, can sometimes present challenges.
But, I’ve found a surprising ally in our frequent visits to the local sento. It’s a place where natural beauty and imperfections are simply part of being human. These experiences have helped me appreciate the Japanese approach to aging. I’ve also learned how to teach my daughter to embrace her own skin, even with eczema and atopic dermatitis rashes.
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Your Friendly Neighborhood Sento: A Place for Reflection and Rejuvenation
Our monthly trips to the public bath have become a bonding ritual for my daughter and me. These rituals began in early November 2023, when I fled my then-husband’s home.
Not to make it sound dramatic, but it was indeed a strategic escape that left me with minimal funds. As in, I didn’t even have enough cash left over to pay a 10,000 yen deposit for the propane gas provider.
(For the record, we did have had running water and electricity. Our child services case worker was well aware of our situation. Just in case a certain person wants to read this blog and attempt to use this information against me, as he has attempted to do so previously.)
During the the first week in our new apartment, we went to the public bath near our house.
What started out as a desperate moment, turned into an immensely therapeutic experience.
The neighborhood grannies, of course, fawned over adorable Miss M and her curls and sent a barge of questions my way.
I was honestly not in the mood to talk, especially after calculating how I could make my last yen stretch until payday on November 10.
But, instead of getting angry or annoyed, I got honest.
Never had I felt more vulnerable or free in that moment, being literally naked and exposed, sharing my legal and marital troubles with a bunch of old women.
And, you know what?
There was no judgment, I didn’t even get a Nihongo ga jouzu desu ne.
Rather, these grannies took it upon themselves to share their own trials, tribulations, and triumphs.
In front of me was undeniable physical proof, in the form of wrinkles, and scars, and silver hair, that life does get better.
This is why Japanese public baths are now a place of healing for me. I count my blessings and am thankful for not being where I used to be.
I have to laugh at my naivety and pride for once thinking of sento as a last resort.
These days, when Miss M and I go to the sento, it’s a meticulously planned affair, consisting of a girls’ day out on the town, a long soak, exfoliation, deep conditioning, shaving, and…food!
Bathing in Confidence, One Dip at a Time
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Being heavily involved in the Japanese beauty industry means I’m constantly navigating different beauty ideals. Through our sento visits, I remind Miss M that everyone’s skin, hair, and body tells a different story.
Some women may have scars from surgeries. Some may be older and show signs of aging. Others may have eczema or other skin conditions.
The point is, everyone’s here to enjoy a moment of self-care, to nurture their bodies and minds, and that’s what true beauty is about!
Do you have a favorite beauty practice that helps you embrace your natural beauty? If you’re looking for a way to foster body positivity in your own life—or in your child’s—visit a sento and experience the power of communal bathing!
